Finding Someone

One of the repeating problems we encounter with single clients is the inability to find other "eligible" single people. Our main office is in New York City, which has a population of around ten million people, and yet is one of the most socially isolated places in the world. Most of the people in the city live in apartments where they may not even know who lives on the floor with them. The general routeen is to enter our apartment, lock three locks, and then stay there until absolutely necessary to go out. This type of activity does make it hard to find people to date.

Our general recommendation for this problem is to determine what passions exist in the individual client's life. Is it art, religion, education, sports, etc.? Once that is determined, then begin to pursue that passion. If a person has a real passion for art; go take a class in art. If you love music; find a class in music appreciation or check in with a local school to see what music courses are offered. Obviously, if religion or spiritual passions exist, find a church or synagog to attend.

In this process two things are accomplished:

1.  The individual is pursuing their passion which provides a more positive outlook on life.
2.  The individual is now in contact with people who have similar passion, a good place to find someone who may be "dateable". 

This approach is healthier and more effective than "Bar hopping" or "Clubbing". Generally the atmosphere in the bars and clubs is fun, but not really conducive to building long term lasting relationships. Internet dating has some advantages and disadvantages, which we will discuss in our next blog.

Case study was Jane, a 32 year old attorney, single, and not happy. She loved to travel and had a passion for photography. Jane had played the bar scene and was burned out with the problems it presented. She followed our advise and enrolled in a class for computer editing of photography. There she met a man who shared the same interest, developed a relationship with him, and is now married to him. Obviously, not all the cases work this well, but the success rate with this approach is rather impressive.

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