Sunday, August 2, 2015

SEVEN WORDS FOR CONTENTMENT


In relationships we often become bogged down with the foiled expectations of past events and/or current problems. As we discussed in the blog I Hate Being Single, the problems of life are not the people, places or events that don't cooperate with our plans; it is what we believe about those people, places or events. 

The stronger I try to control things outside of myself, the more frustrated I will become. The more  I say, "It should not snow" or "I must not be unhappy"; the more I am setting myself up for pain. Why? Because, in reality, how much control do I have over the snow or over everything making me happy. In all honesty, both situations are equal concerning how much control we can exert; It is almost none.

When our clients are in situations that seem to be going against their desires or expectations, we encourage them to follow two sets of thoughts. One contains four words "THIS TOO SHALL PASS", and the other is three words, "WHAT IS, IS".

Think of what you individually were doing five years ago. It may have been a wonderful time or a very painful time, but in either case, it is now in the past. The same thing applies to today. Five years from now, all you are experiencing will be a part of history and you will be involved in new challenges and adventures. So whatever is going on, remember, THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

Today, however, there may be things happening, which are difficult and provide roadblocks to our dreams. If we demand what is going on shouldn't be happening, we have to again ask ourself, how much control do I have over these circumstances? Most likely, very little. Thus, look at the circumstances of today and admit, WHAT IS, IS. We may not like what is, but let's face reality, what is, is. Now let's work on solution rather than demanding the problem should not exist.

WHAT IS, IS.  THIS TOO SHALL PASS.  Seven word for contentment. Let us know what your thoughts are by entering them in the comment section below or email us click here . Enter in as a follower of the blog and we will automatically send you a copy of each new post.

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