Roles in relationship

I think that modern romance can be really confusing. I agree that at its core is the realities of the modern woman. A woman having choices and empowered to be equal with a man. We want and deserve that however we still want a man to have the masculine qualities that keep us intrigued. So we want a man who is in control but who is not controlling, a man who allows us to be in charge when we need to be yet can still be the one to make the plans or be there to nurture us. I guess the key is partnership. As in the book Signal 30,( see http://www.jttwerell.com/) Stacey and Shane seem to have an equal respect for each other, yet still are able to hold to the masculine and feminine roles creating a believeable modern romance. Sometimes I think it may have been easier when male and female roles were distinctly defined. Does this make any sense? Dr. Jan