Many of our close friends are over 50 and going through the different changes brought about by this aging process. Personally, I have the comfort of looking back on those “turning 50” years and can honestly realize they were a time of tremendous yet positive shifts in understanding.
Sometimes this new change in life can be a time of pain as individuals consider all the life previously taken place and how short the future may be. In reality, during the first fifty years we generally have a truly productive time of about twenty years. This is based on the knowledge that we don’t comprehend the totality and complexity of life until we approach thirty.
Developmental Psychology demonstrates between ages twenty-eight to thirty-two there are major paradigm shifts from a time of gathering information about maturity into the ability to use this information to become productive.
From thirty to fifty we attempt to live our life, using the information we accumulated in these early years in order to build something worthwhile. With this aging perspective as a guide, imagine what we can accomplish the next twenty or thirty years after we turn fifty. It will be a time when we will have a lot more understanding and maturity and can now build a life we truly enjoy.
When moving into the fifty's, imagine you are sitting in a chair. If your chair is turned around so all you can do is look back with regret, then despair and disappointment with be the energy of your life. However, if you turn the chair around so you can look forward with confidence and excitement, then life will be good as long as we don’t let stupid thoughts rob us of all the fun. Just think, by the time we hit ninety we won’t really have anything to worry about!
Our journey is designed to evolve from the simplicity of childhood into the pragmatic wisdom of maturity. The key is using each day to find more reason to be thankful for the opportunity to celebrate the journey of life.
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