ONE IN TEN MILLION
In New York City, I am told that there are 10,000,000 people who live in a twenty-five
mile radius of the Empire State Building. That’s a lot of people!
In
my life, my wife is one person I have
chosen to love. That is a very
small number. But if I look at it another way, out of 10,000,000 people, there is only one relationship I really need to
treat with love. That means 9,999,999 people I really don’t have treat
as special people (and in New York City that seems to be rather normal) but
there is only one person who is so important that I will treat her differently
than anyone else in the world. It doesn’t seem such a hard task when you think
of it. Treat one person special out of the millions of others.
But
why do we often treat the 9,999,999 other people better than we treat the one? Because of our EGO. Someplace we make
a decision to be vulnerable to this one person, and chances are, this one
person will mess up someplace and disappoint us. My EGO will then start to “get
even” with this one person and treat them less than nice. In time, both of our
EGO’s will define the relationship and 9,999,999 people will get a better deal
than the one who counts.
Are you in a relationship where you are treating the
one person better than the 9,999,999? If not; why not? As for me…..while I
appreciate the 9,999,999 other people….. I love the one.
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