Wednesday, February 20, 2013

The "I" vs. the "WE"

Defining roles and remaining equal. Now there is a program that will take a lot of work. As we stated in our last blog, Equality in Relationships, the core to building a strong romantic relationship is the ability to have USA or Unconditional Self Acceptance. 
 Every relationship starts when the individual “I” decides to merge somehow into a form of “we”.  In the relationship, the strength of the “I”, or the individual, is not diminished: rather it is encouraged by what the “WE” is able to accomplish as a mutual task. While a piece of each “I” is sacrificed to the “WE”, it still remains the “I” but now finds greater joy in the strength of the “WE” which generally is a place of expansion for the “I”.

For example “I” may not understand Impression Art,  but by merging with another “I” who does understand this, “I” am now expanding. 

However, if the “I” is broken or insecure, then it may demand that the other “I” become just as broken or wounded. 

On the other hand, if the broken “I” is weaker, then it may lose identity and become a pawn to the stronger  “I”. 

If both the “I”s are broken and lack USA (Unconditional Self Acceptance) then each will attempt to contol the other to gain acceptance.
 When this takes place, there will always be a sense of resentment and loss, which will gradually erode the joy of the “we”

The “We” is a place that the “I”’s voluntarily work on, but it is never a place that the “I” becomes lost in

In good relationships, the question that must be answered first is “Who Am I”? If I unconditionally accept who I am, then I will not demand you change to make me whole. That is the start of Romance and Relationship.  As always, share your thoughts here on the blog or email us at JTTwerell@JTTwerell.com
Dr. T and Dr. Jan. 
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Monday, February 4, 2013

OnLine Video Counseling


Online Video Counselin



We are now prepared to enter an entire new phase with the addition of Online Video Counseling Sessions. We researched the various programs and determined SKYPE.COM or FaceTime,to be the best internet communication providers, granting a secure and easy method for those who desired to use their computer network for counseling and therapy. We used the new system and the following are some of the client comments:

  1. It is easier to do the work from the comfort of my home and still have an “in person” session with my counselor.
  2. The hassle of commute often detracted from the insight I received in my session. Now I can talk and see my counselor yet never leave home.
  3. My schedule is complicated and I was able to keep sessions, no matter where my company sent me (including one from China).
  4. I feel more comfortable taking notes over the internet than I do in office sessions. I also go over my notes after a session and the insights make a deeper impact.
  5. My wife and I found the internet sessions a focal point for the next several days. Office visits seemed more detached, but a home conference call provided an atmosphere for mutual interaction.

Telephone and Internet sessions provide greater flexibility and availability, as we are not trying to work around ridged office hours. By internet, we can offer a client almost any day and any hour they need. Handouts and homework sheets are exchanged automatically by the program or email. All sessions are internet secure and follow our standard guidelines for confidentiality.

To begin using a Internet Video Counseling, go to WWW.NYCCC.ORG and follow the instructions.  If you have questions contact us at NYCCC1@aol.com

The standard sliding scale fees apply and there is no charge for the phone minutes when using the SKYPE.COM connection. We would be happy to email you fees, just email us as at NYCCC1@aol.com.

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