Often, when I am talking to people, I am fascinated with the level of disrespect many have toward themselves. I think a lot of the anger in our society is an attempt by some people to make people around them feel as miserable about life as they do.
For example, if I don't like who I am, then you become a threat. Not because you did anything, just the fact that you exist bothers me, because you may seem to be happy and I am not. Therefore, let me make you unhappy so I feel better.
After thousands of years of evolving as the human species, it often seems we haven’t come very far.
One of the things I use in my practice is the aspect of U.S.A.. In this case, U.S.A. stands for Unconditional Self Acceptance. This means a person will accept who they are without judgement. For example: I am a wonderful person and I am also a person who is often not so wonderful. I love humor but I also have a dark side. I love to be at peace, but anger does show up. It is just who I am. No judgement, just observation.
Try it sometime when your inner voice tells you all the bad things about who you are or what you do. Just say, “Yep that’s true” and then remember the opposite is also part of you. It is just who we are. If we accept ourselves without condemnation, then we won’t have to dump all our junk on others.
One of my early books, I AM ADAM deals with this internal struggle. It is a fictional story about the Garden of Eden and how the creation got off on the wrong foot. If you would like a copy, I'm offering it FREE at this website: