There are three aspects of conscious focus in relationships that can create a sense of safety between partners. They are:
Love is the power within us that affirms and values human beings as he or she IS and not the way we want them to be. Human love affirms the person instead of the ideal we would desire him or her to be, or the projection flowing from our mind.
Love is the inner place of the soul that opens our blind eyes to the beauty, value, and quality of the other person. Love causes us to value that person as a total, individual self, and this means we accept the negative side as well as the positive, the imperfections as well as the admirable qualities. When one loves the human being instead of the projection, one loves the shadow as much as one loves the light. One accepts the other person's totality.
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